So, I like talking about motivation, inspiration, how to be happy, ways to have a good attitude and always love life and what’s around the corner. Unfortunately, I can only do that when I am in that happy place. Earlier today I was NOT. I was miserable. I have a pattern of falling into this belief of being no use to this world and when I get to that I am so sad, nothing I do matters, so there’s no point in trying, “It’s a vicious cycle,” to quote the eloquent Fat Bastard from Austin Powers.
I was taken by surprise when these feelings came up this time. I thought this attitude came from not enough exercise, hormonal imbalances, a general bad attitude, not being aware or true to myself. I’ve been working on all these things lately – I thought, and I really thought I was on top of it all and was on my of learning how to be happy all the time. I have been on a high for months and I’ve been telling everyone that. I thought I would never come back to this irrational silliness. In a snap I was completely low. I’ll be having my regular visit to my acupuncturist soon, maybe she can give me some insight as to where I derailed. I think she’s going to say something about cycles though.
Anyways, I saw no end in sight, just as usual. I did a lot of crying, as usual, and I just couldn’t shake these horrible thoughts about myself. Part of me tried to tell myself to go outside and go for a walk but the other part of me shot that down. I even began a desperate e-mail to my acupuncturist. What do I do! I don’t want to wallow but this was going on the 3rd day of being down and it seemed to be getting worse. Enough is enough! How do you change your attitude? Seriously?
I finally decided I could do the very bare minimum, hold my finger. Sounds ridiculous? I didn’t have much faith in it BUT it was also easier than getting up, putting on shoes, and going outside for a walk. It was even easier than counting my breath. I didn’t want to count my breath or have anything to do with reflecting. I didn’t want to pray and remember that there was a god that loves me, I didn’t want to hear that I was just a miraculous drop in the universe, that I was a being of light and love, but I had just been to a class the day before about Jin Shin Jyutsu, a class hosted by Beth Molaro. I had been feeling a little down that day and our practice had almost put me to sleep, it had been lovely and calming.
Beth has a blog dedicated to Jin Shin Jyutsu, all it’s benefits, how it works, why it’s so important. She even provides sessions for clients. I hope you visit through her blog. Here is an article that really struck me about life’s struggles. So, as Beth writes:
Each finger harmonizes an attitude as well as the organs that are affected by that particular attitude. Hold your fingers not to suppress attitudes but to express or release them.
In my desperation I did what I had learned the day before. I held a finger. I held it while I cried, and then as I slowly stopped crying and then I just sat there. I sat for so long until I realized I was calm and no terrible thoughts were running through my head. I held another finger, I went through the balancing exercises I had learned in class and I haven’t cried since. Not only that but I can feel that gloom lifting and I am once again beginning to see the ridiculousness of what I was believing about myself. I think there is something to this Jin Shin Jyutsu. Sadness and self-pity doesn’t respond to rationale and pep talks. I hope you check it out this alternative. Here is a simple exercise to try. Maybe now you will think it’s sort of silly but try it when you want to change an attitude. Try it now and tell me if you notice a difference.
My question to you today: How do you prevent going down to that unhappy place? Do you feel when it’s creeping up on you? Do you have a way to side step negative emotions and limiting beliefs? What has worked the best for you? I hope you will comment below and share with our readers so we can all avoid that pity party. I prefer to be happy.